education

Do we fear our sadism, do we respect it, can we do both? This class covers explorations through sadism, from the very beginning all the way through to heavy sadism and extreme play. We will discuss the issues of self control, as well as what happens as we fall in love with the person we're supposed to be hurting. We will also cover consent issues in heavy play, and ways to craft a scene that focuses on pushing right to the edge - but never over it.

While the kink and BDSM scenes are often lauded for more clear and concise negotiations in relationships, these skills often take a lot of practice and tend to overlook other related skills. To be a successful negotiator, one does not just need to know what kinds of kinks they want and don’t want, but also need to nurture their agency and firmly establish boundaries. Devyn Stone, in “The Art of Getting What You Want,” provides frank discussion with attendees on agency and autonomy. In this class, attendees define and explore what it means to create and enforce boundaries, how to determine what exactly you want in a potential negotiation, the fine art of saying no, as well as understanding when you really mean yes. Attendees will leave this class with a clearer understanding of their boundaries, agency, and autonomy, and will be equipped with techniques and tools to develop these crucial concepts.

Food play utilizes appreciation for all senses, including an ever-evolving, kinky palate comprised of tastes and flavors, especially when sophisticated and discriminating. Did your mother ever tell you not to play with your food at the dinner table? Well, now is the time to let that shit go and evolve your palate with a foodie sensation. You might just earn your lime green hanky (hanky code color for food play). Do you consider yourself a foodie? Does it bring you joy to feed others? Do you like to get messy or eat with proper manners and etiquette? Perhaps, you are more sadistic in your approach by incorporating fear play by turning your partner’s least favorite food into forms of play! Let your imagination run wild! Move beyond the use of strawberries and whipped cream in your kink by incorporating various types of edible items, service, bondage, objectification, humiliation, sensory deprivation, and sharps; you have now evolved past food play 101! Come dine with us and see what will be on the menu!

An introduction to playing with the male “jewels.” Start out with the fingers and hands, and work your way up to small and simple implements. Learn how to play safely and administer aftercare. This is a 101 level edgy workshop.

“Assume good intent.” “Trust me, I’ve got you.” “Follow unquestioningly.” “Lead with clarity.” These are all phrases we have heard tossed about when the subject of authority transfer comes up. Yes, Master/slave relationships are built on a foundation of trust, without it, they crumble. But what happens when trust has been deeply violated, not by a current partner, but by someone in the past? We both know firsthand the complex reality that navigating life after abuse presents, how deeply difficult is to trust—and how easily that trust can be shaken, how terrifying it can feel to lean in no matter how strong the desire to do so is, and how impossible it can feel to not hold back and protect a piece of yourself. Join us as we step into our vulnerability and our power and share with you the ways in which we have been able to lean in, trust, and build a rock solid and thriving M/s dynamic despite our complex histories.

This is not a difficult class. It is not about patterns or forms or even the specific type of rope to be used. It is, in my opinion, an introduction to what rope is all about. There is no performance, no exciting suspension, just an intense love of the form used, basic and utterly beautiful. This is a class for couples, and participants need to bring only a single 30ft(ish) length of rope.